Dating can be hard if you’re overweight and single, here’s how to simplify it.
Guys are such jerks! They won’t even LOOK at you if you’re not a size 2!” or my favorite, “Whatever, I just want a guy to value ME for ME, not for how I look.
But let’s be real here, if you’re BBW single, it can feel like there’s no hope in the world for finding a person that madly, truly, deeply loves YOU. Yes, even ALL of you. Dating while being overweight isn’t a death sentence to single at all. Here are 5 rules for curvy women who want pure dating mastery! And for added intrigue I’ve personally used all of these rules in my dating life, which led one hell of a man to put a ring on it.
BBW Dating Rule #1: Size only matters if you make it matter.
There is nothing more unattractive than leading with your unhappiness. The mind is a marvelous tool when it comes to reality — if you think your weight is a real factor to your lack of dates, guess what — you’re right! Not because a man told you so, not because COSMO said so — it comes down to one raw, crippling belief that is holding you back: you’re just too fat for love.
There is nothing more unattractive than leading with your unhappiness. The mind is a marvelous tool when it comes to reality — if you think your weight is a real factor to your lack of dates, guess what — you’re right! Not because a man told you so, not because COSMO said so — it comes down to one raw, crippling belief that is holding you back: you’re just too fat for love.
There are many people in the world that think large women are unattractive and there are many men that think skinny women are unattractive. Don’t assume your body image hang ups are how others see you. If body acceptance is a real struggle for you, it’s important to work through it before you begin dating seriously. You’ll just end up bringing your insecurities into the relationship and that’s no good for anyone involved. Everyone has insecurities but knowing how to mange and work through your own is a major factor in dating success.
Dating can be hard if you’re overweight and single, here’s how to simplify it.
BBW Dating Rule #2: Never lie about who you are & what you look like.
The internet is amazing – I fell in love the moment I typed in “www” for the first time back in the late ’90s. If you’re lying about how you look, what’s going to happen if/when you finally get to meet face-to-face? You’ll feel unnecessary anxiety and maybe even rejection — but not because of how you look necessarily, but because you damaged their trust. Yes, it’s scary to be that open, but putting the real you out there can mean only ONE thing: people will also positively respond to the real you and that will give you a huge boost of confidence!
The internet is amazing – I fell in love the moment I typed in “www” for the first time back in the late ’90s. If you’re lying about how you look, what’s going to happen if/when you finally get to meet face-to-face? You’ll feel unnecessary anxiety and maybe even rejection — but not because of how you look necessarily, but because you damaged their trust. Yes, it’s scary to be that open, but putting the real you out there can mean only ONE thing: people will also positively respond to the real you and that will give you a huge boost of confidence!
BBW Dating Rule #3: You teach others how you want to be treated.
Similar to rule 1, this one needs to go a little deeper into what your boundaries and expectations are in dating. Sometimes overweight women are also push-overs: they think that if they are overly nice and accommodating people will love them more. What ends up happening is you start to feel taken advantage of and that you’re just settling, and people won’t respect you.
Similar to rule 1, this one needs to go a little deeper into what your boundaries and expectations are in dating. Sometimes overweight women are also push-overs: they think that if they are overly nice and accommodating people will love them more. What ends up happening is you start to feel taken advantage of and that you’re just settling, and people won’t respect you.
BBW Dating Rule #4: Always dress in your most-fabulous!I used to wear over-sized sweatshirts to parties in junior high because I thought they would hide my tummy better. And when I look back at those photos all I can see is an uncomfortable.
Rule #5: Learn how to attract & keep men that honor all of you Dating is 90% mental; 10% physical. There is a craft to the art of attraction and it starts with your sexiest organ: the mind. Attracting the right kind of partner is about understanding and valuing yourself, and trusting that whomever you date will also hold their own self worth in high regard. You can tell when you’re not being respected, and the good men out there the difference between a woman of self worth and a woman of self pity. Don’t allow yourself to hold back from being the light in someone’s life. Love isn’t just for thin people. Love isn’t something that is denied to those who don’t fit the mold. Love first and foremost, comes from a deep sense of unconditional self love. These five rules are just some of the life-changing ways love can enter into your curvy life, so go out there, practice them and even better, write some love rules for yourself.
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